Grandparents Cry Twice: Help for Bereaved Grandparents is a book
about grandparents' dual sorrow when a grandchild dies. They cry for their lost grandchild
and they also cry for the terrible grief they see their own child having to bear. The author,
Mary Lou Reed, writes of her experiences when her beloved grandson, Alex, died.
Through her personal story she touches the universal in all grandparents' grief.
In the preface Reed shares excerpts from condolence letters written by the third-grade
classmates of Alex's older brother, Curtis, and tells how those letters helped her
The first chapters describe the joy felt from Alex's birth, his life, and the agony of
his illness and death at two-and-a-half years; the confusion, and the struggle to continue
functioning; and Reed's personal frustration with the lack of applicable information about
grandparents' grief. Following chapters look at the grief theories of various authorities
and their relevancy for parents and grandparents. Information the author learned from
experience, study, and correspondence with other grandparents is used in the chapters on
helping themselves, helping the grieving parents, and their surviving children.
Other chapters make suggestions for memorials, and personal rituals as well as how
others may assist or hurt. The closing chapter is an overview of the author's journey
Appendices include selected poems, a list of resources, and a bibliography
Intended Audience: Grandparents who have experienced a death of a grandchild, death educators,
grief counselors, psychologists, clergy, college students, self-help support groups, and
those who want to understand more about dying and death.