From the heart
Maggie Strong has written a hands-on book for those who are living with a chronically ill spouse or
partner. She speaks from her own personal experience and shares the stories that other caregivers
have told her. Strong was the first one to write a book that 'tells it like it is." Her writing
brought tears to my eyes on more than one occasion because I thought my experiences with an ill
husband were unique. This book showed me that I was not alone, where to turn for help in finding
support groups, how to handle difficult family situations, and most importantly, gave me hope that
I could carry on. Being a caregiver is a very lonely existence...most of the attention focuses on
the person who is ill. However, illness impacts the entire family. The healthy or well spouse should
not be an invisible part of the equation. Brava to Maggie Strong for her courage and for leading the
way on this important topic.
[email protected] from New Jersey , August 4, 1999
Validation and Practical Help for a Well Spouse
When my husband was diagnosed with a chronic illness in 1992,I was totally unprepared for the major
lifestyle changes that it brought about, even though I am a nurse. When I found "Mainstay", it was
as though I was no longer alone. There was someone who not only understood but who was able to clearly
articulate the experience. The illness and the circumstances were different but the feelings were so
similar. The book also gives realistic and practical ways to survive as a well spouse. However, for me,
the best part was that the book led to an ongoing organization, the Well Spouse Foundation, that continues
to provide support, education, and hope to many well spouses.
A reader from Missouri, October 28, 1998
The author offers solid advice, restorative support
For anyone who is living through the challenges of caring for a loved one who is chronically ill, this
is a voice of sense and compassion, spoken by one who obviously knows what she's talking about from
first-hand experience. Maggie Strong explores every aspect of the experience, from the first dreadful
diagnosis of her mate's emerging disease to the social and emotional changes that inevitably wash over
the family's daily routines. And while she never glosses over the terrible toll such an experience can
take on every member of the family, she also offers plenty of affirming information on what caregivers
can do to save themselves while negotiating these difficult waters. I can't recommend this book enough.
Short of knowing Maggie Strong personally, I can't imagine having a better companion for the journey
my husband and I must travel. The book has literally saved my life! Thank you, Maggie.
A reader from South Kent, CT , September 4, 1998
Indispensable for caregivers
This is a rare thing--a practical, down-to-earth guide that's also very personal and written with the
power of a good novel. As the wife of a chronically ill husband, Maggie Strong is honest about her
husband's long illness and how it has altered their marriage and their family, and about the feelings
all caregivers have: the love, the despair, the humor, the determination to go on and transcend enormous
problems. There is nothing depressing here, but no Pollyanna either. You'll also learn about insurance,
disability checks, dealing with doctors, asking for help, and scores of other ways to manage. You'll
learn about a great support group. This voice will stay with you.
A reader from New York City , July 7, 1998